Friday, June 18, 2010

Being Happy: 17 Timeless Secrets of Happy People

Here are 17 timeless secrets of happy people:

1. Forget the past
One of the keys to happiness is a bad memory.Rita Mae Brown
You won’t be happy if you carry the burden of the past. Did you make mistakes? Did you have terrible experiences? Whatever they are, you should let them go. There’s nothing you can do about the past, so you’d better let them go and focus your energy on the present.

2. Take responsibility for your life
The secret of Happiness is Freedom, and the secret of Freedom, Courage.Thucydides
To be happy you should have freedom and the most essential freedom is the freedom to choose. No matter how bad a situation is, you can always choose how you respond to it. People can annoy you, but it’s up to you whether or not you will resent.
But, as the quote above says, freedom takes courage. Freedom to choose requires the courage to take responsibility for your life. You shouldn’t blame someone else when something goes wrong. Take the responsibility and you have the power to choose.

3. Build relationships
Life’s truest happiness is found in friendships we make along the way.Unknown
Relationships is where we can get true happiness in life. The reason is simple: only through relationships can we love and be loved. Make relationships your
top priority and you are on your way to true happiness.

4. Develop multiple passions
The more passions and desires one has, the more ways one has of being happy.Charlotte-Catherine
Passions lead you to happiness. So not only should you discover your
multiple passions, you should also expand yourself to new passions. This way you will create new ways to happiness.
The key to expanding to new passions is curiosity. If you are curious, you will have an endless stream of exciting things waiting for you.

5. Build your character
Character is the basis of happiness and happiness the sanction of character.George Santayana
Building your character is essential for happiness. When you are true to yourself and others, you will be in peace.
The way to start building character is by making promises and keeping them. For example, you make promise to yourself that you won’t smoke. When you keep it, you are building your character. Or you make promise to others to be punctual. When you keep it, you build your character.

6. Be who you are
The summit of happiness is reached when a person is ready to be what he is.Desiderius Erasmus
You can only be happy if you become who you are. Don’t live other people’s life by trying to meet their expectations. People may expect you to have certain job or certain way of living but don’t be intimidated by them. Find who you are and be yourself.

7. Live your life purpose
The only true happiness comes from squandering ourselves for a purpose.William Cowper
To have a fulfilling life, you should find your life purpose and follow it faithfully.
Find what matters to you and build the courage to follow it. Having a one-liner will help you internalize and communicate your mission.

8. Count your blessings
Happiness will never come to those who fail to appreciate what they already have.Unknown
Being happy is easy if we are grateful. Unfortunately, seeing what we don’t have is often easier than seeing what we have. Sometimes we need to experience loss before appreciating what we have. So don’t take things for granted. Look at what you have and soon you will have plenty of reasons to be happy. You may start with
these simple things.

9. Have positive mind
It is not the place, nor the condition, but the mind alone that can make anyone happy or miserable.Roger L’Estrange
Happy people know how to control their mind. They don’t let negative thoughts come in. While a situation may seem bad to others, happy people look at them in a positive way. They always believe that no matter how bad a situation seems, there is always something positive to take from it. Your mind can make or break you, so guard it well.

10. Work creatively
Happiness lies in the joy of achievement and the thrill of creative effort.Franklin D. Roosevelt
When you work creatively on something you will find happiness. There is a well-known phenomenon regarding this called flow. When you are in the state of flow, you are fully focused on the task at hand that you no longer realize the passage of time. This state of flow allows you to achieve high productivity and being happy at the same time. Here are
some tips to achieve it.

11. Start with what you have
The foolish man seeks happiness in the distance, the wise grows it under his feet.James Oppenheim
Happy people don’t need something they don’t have to be happy. They don’t need certain job or certain level of income. Instead, they learn to be happy with what they already have. They have learned the art of contentment. Be content with what you have and you will be happy.

12. Change
They must often change who would be constant in happiness or wisdom.Confucius
Being happy requires you to constantly grow. In fact, the process of learning itself is essential for happiness. Have you ever felt the excitement of being enlightened about something? Have you ever felt the excitement of achieving a new level in life?
Top 10 Things You Should Change in Your Life gives you some practical tips on changing your life.

13. Use your talents
True happiness involves the full use of one’s power and talents.Douglas Pagels
There are two lessons to take from this quote. First, you should
find your talents and second, you should use them to the fullest. Working in your talents is a sure way to enjoy your work because it’s something you are “hardwired” to do. Using your talents fully will make you even happier because of the satisfaction of doing your best.

14. Beware of small things
The happiness of most people we know is not ruined by great catastrophes or fatal errors, but by the repetition of slowly destructive little things.Ernest Dimnet
This is very true. Often it’s not big things that ruin your happiness. It’s the small things that do. Perhaps you don’t like someone or break some “small” promises. But even small leaks can sink your ship of happiness, so beware of them.

15. Distill your ambitions
Where ambition ends happiness begins.Author Unknown
While wanting to achieve more in your life is good, being obsessed by it is not. Do your best to improve yourself but don’t be obsessed by it.

16. Make others happy
Happiness is a perfume you cannot pour on others without getting a few drops on yourself.Ralph Waldo Emerson
This is my favorite secret of happiness. The way to being happy is to make others happy first. The more you help other people and make them happy, the more you will be happy. Happiness doesn’t come through selfishness but through selflessness. You reap what you sow.

17. Practice compassion
If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion.The Dalai Lama
Compassion is perhaps the highest level of selflessness we could have. As this quote aptly says, practicing compassion can make both others and you happy.
But of course, it requires practice. Start with thinking about the people around you. Look at their needs and find ways to meet them. Even if you don’t do it out of compassion in the beginning, your compassion will grow over time.
All in all, this quote by Aristotle can summarize the lessons above:
Happiness depends upon ourselves.
It’s you who decide whether
or not you are happy in life.
I choose to be happy. What about you?

Thursday, April 22, 2010

Story bout' Mom & Dad(Take time read even though it’s lengthy ……..)

“in life, God doesn't give you the person you want, instead He gives you the person you need... to love you... hurt you and teach you the real meaning of life..."
A story worth sharing

4 years ago, an accident took my beloved away and very often I wonder, how
does my wife, who is now in the heavenly realm, feel right now? She must
be feeling extremely sad for leaving a husband who is incapable to taking
care of the house and the kid. 'cos that is the exact feeling that I have,
as I feel that I have failed to provide for the physical and emotional
needs of my child, and failed to be the dad and mum for my child.

There was one particular day, when I had an emergency at work. Hence, I
had to leave home whilst my child was still sleeping. So thinking that
there was still rice leftovers, I hastily cooked an egg and left after
informing my sleepy child.

With the double roles, I am often exhausted at work as well as when I am
home. So after a long day, I came home, totally drained of all energy. So
with just a brief hug and kiss for my child, I went straight into the
room, skipping dinner. However, when I jumped into my bed with intention
of just having a well-deserved sleep, all i heard and felt was broken
porcelain and warm liquid! I flipped open my blanket, and there lies the
source of the 'problem'... a broken bowl with instant noodles and a mess
on the bedsheet and blanket!

Boy, was I mad! I was so furious that I took a clothes hanger, charged
straight at my child who was happily playing with his toy, and give him a
good spanking! He merely cried but not asking for mercy, except a short

"Dad, I was hungry and there wasn't anymore leftover rice. But you were
not back yet, hence I wanted to cook some instant noodles. But I
remembered you reminding me not to touch or use the gas stove without any
adults around, hence I turned on the shower and used the hot water from
the bathroom to cook the noodles. One is for you and the other is for me.
However, I was afraid that the noodles will turn cold, so I hid it under
the blanket to keep it warm till you return. But I forgot to remind you
'cos I was playing with my toys...I am sorry Dad..."

At that moment, tears were starting to run down my cheeks...but I didn't
want my son to see his dad crying so I dashed into the bathroom and cried
with the shower head on to mask my cries. After that episode, I went
towards my son to give him a tight hug and applied medication on him,
while coaxing him to sleep. Then, it was time to clear up the mess on the
bed. When everything was done and well past midnight, I passed my son's
room, and saw that he was still crying, not from the pain on his little
buttock, but from looking at the photograph of his beloved mummy.

A year has passed since the episode, I have tried, in this period, to
focus on giving him both the love of his dad and mum, and to attend to
most of his needs. And soon, he is turning seven, and will be graduating
from kindergarten. Fortunately, the incident did not leave a lasting
impression on his childhood memories and he is still happily growing up.

However, not so long ago, I hit my boy again, with much regret. This time,
his kindergarten teacher called, informing me of my son's absence from
school. I took off early from work and went home, expecting him to
explain. But he wasn't to be found, so I went around our house, calling
out his name and eventually found him outside a stationery shop, happily
playing computer games. I was fuming, brought him home and whack the hell
out of him. He did not retaliate, except to say, 'I am sorry, Dad'. But > after much probing, I realized that it was a 'Talent Show' organized by
his school and the invite is for every student's mummy. And that was the
reason for his absence as he has no mummy.....

Few days after the caning, my son came home to tell me, the kindergarten
has recently taught him how to read and write. Since then, he has kept to
himself and stayed in his room to practise his writing, which I am sure,
would make my wife proud, if she was still around. 'cos he makes me proud

Time passes by very quickly, and soon another year has passed. It's
winter, and its Christmas time. Everywhere the christmas spirit is in
every passer-by...Christmas carols and frantic shoppers....but alas, my
son got into another trouble. When I was about to knock off from the day's
work, the post office called. Due to the peak season, the post master was
also on an edgy mood. He called to tell me that my son has attempted to
post several letters with no addressee. Although I did make a promise
never to hit my son again, I couldn't help but to hit him as I feel that
thi s child of mine is really beyond control. Once again, as before, he
apologized, ' I'm sorry, Dad' and no additional reason to explain. I
pushed him towards a corner, went to the post office to collect the
letters with no addressee and came home, and angrily questioned my son on
his prank, during this time of the year.

His answer, amidst his sobbing, was : The letters were for Mummy.

My eyes grew teary, but I tried to control my emotions and continued to
ask him: " But why did u post so many letters, at one time?" My son's
reply was: " I have been writing to mummy for a long time, but each time I
reach out for the post box, it was too high for me, hence I was not able
to post the letters. But recently, when I went back to the postbox, I
could reach it and I sent it all at once..."

After hearing this, I was lost. Lost at not knowing what to do, what to

I told my son, " Son, mummy is in the heavenly kingdom, so in future, if
you have anything to tell her, just burn the letter and it will reach
mummy. My son, on hearing this, was much pacifi ed and calm, and soon
after, he was sleeping soundly. On promising that I will burn the letters
on his behalf, I brought the letters outside, but couldnt help opening the
letter before they turn to ash.

And one of the letters broke my heart....

Dear Mummy,

I miss you so much! Today, there was a 'Talent Show' in school, and the
school invited all mothers for the show. But you are not around, so I did
not want to participate as well. I did not tell Dad about it as I was
afraid that Dad would start to cry and miss you all over again. Dad went
around looking for me, but in order to hide my sadness, I sat in front of
the computer and started playing games at one of the shops. Dad was
furious, and he couldnt help it but scolded and hit me, but I did not tell
him the real reason. Mummy, everyday I see Dad missing you and whenever he
think of you, he is so sad and often hide and cry in h is room. I think
we both miss you very very much. Too much for our own good I think. But
Mummy, I am starting to forget your face. Can you please appear in my
dreams so that I can see your face and remember you? I heard that if you
fall asleep with the photograph of the person whom you miss, you will see
the person in your dreams. But mummy, why havent you appear?

After reading the letter, I cant stop sobbing. 'cos I can never replace
the irreplaceable gap left behind by my wife....

For the females with children:

Don't do so much overtime. If you cannot finish the work, it must be some
kind of problems within the company, and it is not your sole problem.
Feedback to your boss. Endless overtime may not necessary be the answer to
the problem. Take care of your health so that you can treasure and take
care of your little precious.

For the married men:

Drink less, smoke less, cos nothing can replace your good health, not even
business nor clients.
<>Try thinking this way, are you able to work till your clients are
totally dependent on you? or your boss is totally dependent on you? In
this society, no one is indispensable.

Take care of your health, so that you can take care of your little
precious and your loved ones.

For those singles out there:

Beauty lies in loving yourself first.

With confidence and loving yourself, you will see the beauty in other
things around you. You will be able to work better and happier. Don't let
your health be affected by your work or your boss, so nothing matters more
than your well being.
(hold ur breath ok really touching)

Tuesday, January 26, 2010

How i wish i have more time!!!

clock is twirlin’

I’m already getting dizzy just from looking at the clock image

- Massive Hangover Clock -

Its really hard to do things if you don't have enough time ...
So much of things to do in 1 day and we have only 24 hours ...

been googling
came across of these :

Did you ever had the feeling that you had not enough time? I really want another time system actually,… let’s think about an alternative for the actual time system..introducing the “Energy IS Time” system.
Who the f*ck invented Time?
The origins of our current measurement system go back to the Sumerian civilization of approximately 2000 BCE. This is known as the Sumerian Sexagesimal System based on the number 60.
60 seconds in a minute,
60 minutes in an hour -
and possibly a calendar with 360 (60×6) days in a year
Twelve also features prominently, with roughly 12 hours of day and 12 of night, and roughly 12 months in a year (especially in a 360 day year).
Time is actually an illusion caused by the passing of history.
Time was not “invented” as it does not really exist. It is a purely human mechanism for managing our lives.Outside the human framework all other organisms live “now” there is no yesterday or tomorrow in their consciousness. Of course they learn things and use that knowledge at a later date.
“Energy IS Time” concept
I want to introduce you all folks to a totally new concept of Time called “Energy IS Time“. This concept is based on how much energy you have at a given moment and depending on the energy you have, you will have more time available. Did you not had the moment that you said “Fuck… time flies”, that actually means that you had a lot of energy in that specific time frame. So it would be much more enjoyable that the time available automatically adjusts to the energy you have. Energy IS the unit to measure time !
Imagine you have a lot of energy, I then think you need more time then the current time system allows you. The current system says that you only have 60 seconds in a minute….independently of the energy you still have. But the current seconds value must be a variable depending on the energy you have. So actually in current time system your clock is going to turn around slower to represent more time, because you have more energy.
Make the concept online interactive
Of course if we want to introduce this concept to the big mass of people, we need some way to make to clear to each other how much energy you have so people know if you are for example able to talk to them or maybe you simply have no time (= no energy).
Because we are living not in the Sumerian time anymore, we can implement easily a world wide human portal site where people can look up the time system their friend has. Imagine a website where people are represented by their energy value. People with more energy are represented as more reddish dots and people with no or less energy are represented as dots with less or no red color.
It would be awesome to see a report on what country has the most energy, isn’t it?
Actually because energy is something scientifically measurable we can automatically track the energy level of a person. Simply built in a energy sensor inside a newly born human being and send the energy level automatically to the portal site. This would be the ideal solution for making arrangements with people because you can also see on the portal at what moment the specified person has the most energy.
Offline energy communication
What would it be if you need to check the energy level of a person outside of the internet ‘energy portal’ site. We need a way to represent the energy level of a person in a offline way. This can be easily done by intelligent clothing. Imagine that your T-Shirt color automatically synchronize with your energy level. In that way for example the color of your T-Shirt will be more saturated when you have more energy and less saturated when you have less energy. This is only one way to show your energy level in offline communication, I am sure there are a lot more ways to express your energy value.

* absolutely learn something in this*

PARADOX OF LIFE(a must read)

The paradox of our time in history is that we have taller buildings but shorter tempers, wider Freeways, but narrower viewpoints. We spend more, but have less, we buy more, but enjoy less. We have bigger houses and smaller families, more conveniences, but less time. We have more degrees but less sense, more knowledge, but less judgment, more experts, yet more problems, more medicine, but less wellness.

We drink too much, smoke too much, spend too recklessly, laugh too little, drive too fast, get too angry, stay up too late, get up too tired, read too little, watch TV too much, and pray too seldom.

We have multiplied our possessions, but reduced our values. We talk too much, love too seldom, and hate too often.

We've learned how to make a living, but not a life. We've added years to life not life to years. We've been all the way to the moon and back, but have trouble crossing the street to meet a new neighbor. We conquered outer space but not inner space. We've done larger things, but not better things.

We've cleaned up the air, but polluted the soul. We've conquered the atom, but not our prejudice. We write more, but learn less. We plan more, but accomplish less. We've learned to rush, but not to wait. We build more computers to hold more information, to produce more copies than ever, but we communicate less and less.

These are the times of fast foods and slow digestion, big men and small character, steep profits and shallow relationships. These are the days of two incomes but more divorce, fancier houses, but broken homes. These are days of quick trips, disposable diapers, throwaway morality, one night stands, overweight bodies, and pills that do everything from cheer, to quiet, to kill. It is a time when there is much in the showroom window and nothing in the stockroom. A time when technology can bring this letter to you, and a time when you can choose either to share this insight, or to just hit delete...

Remember; spend some time with your loved ones, because they are not going to be around forever.

Remember, say a kind word to someone who looks up to you in awe, because that little person soon will grow up and leave your side.

Remember, to give a warm hug to the one next to you, because that is the only treasure you can give with your heart and it doesn't cost a cent.

Remember, to say, 'I love you' to your partner and your loved ones, but most of all mean it. A kiss and an embrace will mend hurt when it comes from deep inside of you.

Remember to hold hands and cherish the moment for someday that person will not be there again.

Give time to love, give time to speak! And give time to share the precious thoughts in your mind.


Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away.

George Carlin

Friday, January 22, 2010

Apology letter

Personal Apology Letter
Writing a personal apology letter is one of the most difficult tasks. You have upset or offended a member of the family or a personal friend and want to make a sincere apology. Where do you start? Well, the good news is that you have already started - you have reached this page. And you can save a relationship by sending a letter where you can say you are sorry instead of letting it 'snowball' out of control.

Personal Apology Letter

Some things to and tips to consider when writing a personal apology letter:
Put yourself in the other person’s shoes – how would you feel?
Apologise as soon as possible - but better late than never...
Start the letter by apologising and state exactly what you are apologising for
Try to provide a reason for what occurred
Always acknowledge the feelings of the other person
Accept full responsibility for what has happened
Do not blame the other person when you offer your apology
Promise not to repeat your mistake
Ask that they give you another chance and the opportunity to prove yourself
Say that you will call them shortly to apologise in person

Wednesday, January 6, 2010


Dearest Mom,

In a lifetime I will never find another, who will love me as unconditionally as you have. I am truly blessed to not only have you as my mother but a soulmate. One who can see through my smile to know I am hurting. Who will do just about anything to see me happy, even if it means keeping silent whilst performing little deeds in the background. One whose fervent prayers have kept me safe from harm or sickness. I have so much to learn from you. I am always in awe when I witness your generosity, and your kindness to those in need.

Mom, I know I am not the best daughter and am truly sorry for all those times I’ve hurt you. I can only promise to do better. Know that I love you with all my heart even though I may not say it everyday.Eventhough we're far from each other.

Thank you so much for all your love and sacrifice, you are ‘Heaven Sent’ and you are my inspiration.

Happy Birthday Mom!

All my love,


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